Parenting a student-athlete can be extremely difficult.
By establishing an understanding of each position - the student-athlete, the coach and the parent/guardian - we are better able to accept the actions of the other and provide a greater support to all.
As parents, when your child is involved in Lancer Athletics, you have the right to understand what expectations are placed on him/her. This begins with clear communications from the coach of the sport. It is also important to remember that positive interactions with the coach is an important step towards your child respecting and communicating with the coach.
Over the course of a season, it is often important to remember the following key principals of parenting a student-athlete:
- Ensure that your child understands that win or lose, you love him or her.
- Assist your child in setting realistic goals.
- Emphasize hard work, effort and "improved" performance, not individual or team results.
- Support and celebrate academics first, athletics second.
- Control your emotions at games and events.
- Respect your child's coaches. Communicate with them in a positive way. Encourage others to do the same.
- Respect the officials at your child's games. Officials are human and do make mistakes. An official has never won or lost a ballgame due to a call.
- Never approach an official after a game. Emotions are usually pretty high at that time.
- Be a positive role model for your child. Children do pay attention to your actions.
As some point you may feel the need to discuss certain concerns you may have with the coach. Below are a few topics that we encourage you actively participate in with your child's coach.
- The treatment of your child
- Ways to help your child improve
- Concerns about your child's behavior
- Concerns about your child's academic performance
- Safety of your child
Please remember that our coaching team are athletic professionals. They will always try to make decisions based on what they believe are the best actions for all student-athletes involved. As you have seen from the list above, certain things can be and should be discussed with your child's coach. The five items listed below should always be left to the discretion of the coach:
- Playing time
- Team strategy
- Play calling
- Offensive/defensive philosophies
- Other student athletes
There are situations that may require a conference between the coach and player, or coach and parent. These conferences are encouraged. It is important that all parties involved have a clear understanding of the other's position. Be willing to accept opinions and/or knowledge that you may not want to hear.
When a conference is necessary, the following procedure should be used to help resolve any concerns.
- Student-Coach — open-door policy for all coaches
- Parent-Coach — done by appointment
If you have a concern to discuss with a coach, the procedure you should follow is:
- Do not attempt to confront a coach immediately before or after a contest or practice. These can be emotional times for both the parent and the coach. Meetings of this nature usually do not promote positive resolutions.
- Call the coach to schedule an appointment. The phone number for the high school will be posted at parent meetings.
- If the coach cannot be reached, call the school athletic director, he/she will set up a meeting for you.
What can you do if the meeting with the coach did not provide a satisfactory resolution?
- Call and schedule an appointment with the school athletic director. At this meeting, the appropriate next step can be determined, if necessary.
- Call the school principal to discuss the situation.
- Contact the Central Office only after going through school athletic director and school principal first.